Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
After writing what I did in steps 4 and 5, and seeing the exact nature of my wrong, it is obvious that I would want those defects removing just like a cancer! Remove, well, replace is another way of looking at it, if you have problems with God and don’t know how God is going to remove those defects. Well you could start to add things to your character such as tolerance, patience, gratitude, honesty, courage, humility etc these lead to a blameless life. Sure people will get pissed off with you, whatever you do, but to live a blameless life, where you mind your own business, get on with your own life, stop people pleasing, stop arguing (does it matter?), help, be caring, listen and learn. Let people be your teacher, not your master! Who would you sooner be stuck in a lift with, an arrogant self-centred person, or a caring gentleperson?
Dave helped me so much, he was a devout catholic and I was on the Buddhist path. I asked him why I should do step 4, and he replied “In your case, Billy, to become a gentle-man”. I had heard that word a million times; I understood a gentleman in word, deed and nature. So I could not see any good reason why I should hang on to my defects, so, yes, I was ready.
If I think the same, expect the same, react the same, want the same, say the same, do the same, resent the same, hate the same, I will feel the same!
All I had to do was PRACTICE OPPOSITES!